I have been reading and learning a lot about personal values lately. I have been learning about my own personal values as part of my own journey of self awareness and learning about what makes me the way that I am. I have started working with a psychologist as part of my own mental health care and she had suggested that I read the book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k’ by Mark Manson, which inspires the following blog post.
A Brief Overview of ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k’ by Mark Manson
The book, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k’ is a self-help book about learning to care about the things in our lives that are worth caring about, or in Mark’s words, giving a f**k about the things that are worth giving a f**k about. It turns out that we all need to give a f**k about something, so we better make it worthwhile.
Personal Values are the Things that Matter Most and What Makes us Unique and Individual
One of the topics that Mark talks about in his book is personal values. I have learned a lot about what values are, what they’re for and why we all need them. Everybody has values, but each one is different. What may be important to me does not mean that it is important to you. Values are the things that matter most to us and what make us unique and individual people.
Our Personal Values Highlight What we Stand For and What We’re Willing to Fight For
Some of the values we hold are never permanent and some of them we carry with us throughout our entire lives. What may be important to you right now may not be the same in the future. What you don’t care about right now may become highly valued to you when you grow older and wiser. Values are not permanent, but they highlight what we stand for and what we are willing to fight for.
Personal Values Guide How we Act, Respond and Behave in Situations
Whether you realise it, you’re always using those things that are important to you. They guide us in how we react, respond and behave in situations and they guide us in what makes us feel good and what makes us incredibly offended. Our values help us to determine all the decisions that we make are going to be a good fit for us. Whether it be to leave our job, becomes friends with that person, buy those pair of shoes or eat that bar of chocolate that we don’t really need.
Without Our Values we have Nothing to Live For
When we make decisions and do things that fit with our values everything is good and feels aligned, but when we do things that are against our values or when a situation conflicts with our values, everything seems to turn to shit. Without our values we have nothing to motivate us and drive us. We have nothing to live for.
Our Values Help Inspire us to Live a Life That’s Fulfilling and Worthwhile
Our values help guide us when we have challenging and difficult decisions to make. Once we know what our values are and articulate them, we can use them to guide us in decisions and guide our behaviour. We can use them like a roadmap to help us plan living a life that’s fulfilling, worthwhile and a life that we love.
I Help Clients Explore What’s Important to Them
When I work with clients, one of the first things that we do together is determine what the client values and sees as important. We use these values to help determine what it is that they want, why it is that they want it and use them to drive motivation and determination. When I encourage clients to understand why they want to achieve something I can help them decide whether they are doing it for them.
I still struggle to understand and articulate why I do some of the things that I do. I struggle to articulate why I chose to work in Child Protection Services or why I chose to become a social work practitioner. Once I know, I will let you know!
So, what’s important to you and what do you value?
I’m curious to know what is important to you and what do you value. Comment below and tell me about one thing that is important to you and that you value.
Here’s to finding your best you.
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