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7 Ways you can Nourish your Soul and Spiritual Self

This year I have been on my own journey of discovering who I am as a person and what things I can do to take better care of myself.  This came about after my episode of burn out earlier this year, when I realised that I had been failing to pay attention to my body’s signals and warning signs, ignoring my own needs and failing to do what I needed to do to take care of myself.  The good thing is, I’ve recovered and lately I’ve been thinking about the things that I do to nourish my soul spiritual self.

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What is soulful and spiritual self-care?

Soulful or spiritual self-care is about living soulfully and nourishing your spiritual self.  It’s not just about believing in another entity and following a religion.  It’s about learning what makes you the human being that you are, discovering the things that are important to you, learning about your personal values and living your life in line with them.  Soulful and spiritual self-care is doing things that make your soul feel warm and fuzzy, that makes you feel like you’re living a soulful life filled with goodness, happiness and purpose.  These things are vital for your mental health and recovery from mental illnesses such as anxiety or depression.

So, what things do you do to make your soul feel warm and fuzzy?

Below I list 7 things that I do to nurture my soul and spiritual self, that you can do too.

  1. Knowing what is important to you and what you value in life
  2. Practising gratitude
  3. Living your life with intention
  4. Visualising the life you want to have
  5. Being present
  6. Spending time with people that you love
  7. Spending time in nature

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1. Knowing what is important to you and what you value in life

Earlier this year I read the book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k’ by Mark Manson and what an absolute life changer it was for me.  If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend you grab a copy and read it.  I appreciated his ‘no fluff’, ‘tell it how it is’ attitude and style of writing.  The book encouraged me to delve into my own discovery of what makes me the person that I am, what I consider to be important and the things that I value in my life right now.  I learned about the things that I am willing to fight for and the things that I waste far too much time and energy on (such as caring too much about what other people think of me).  These things guide the decisions that I make and influence the direction that I want my life to take from this point onwards.  I feel soulful, I feel determined and I feel empowered.

<< Read more about how your personal values influence
your passion and purpose here >>

2. Practicing Gratitude

My own psychologist encouraged me practice regular gratitude.  I was hesitant at first as I didn’t believe that such a thing could be helpful.  Wow! Was I wrong!  The first time I sat quietly, closed my eyes and thought of one thing that I was grateful for in that moment, I could literally feel the chemical changes in my body.

Practicing gratitude is one of the simplest and easiest things that you can do to make your soul feel fuzzy, to nourish your spiritual self and promote a happy and fulfilled life.  Thinking of something that you’re grateful for every day helps to shift your mental state, which can help to break down your brain’s habit of focusing on the negative.  Gratitude is a powerful practice.  Do not under estimate it.

Since that appointment I list one thing that I am grateful for everyday in my self care planner, which you can find available in my store.

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Also, you can read more about gratitude and six other powerful happiness exercises you can do for a better life here.

3. Living your life with intention

Now, more than ever, I have been determined to live my life with intention and I can feel how nourishing it is for me already.  So far, I am learning who I am as a person, I’m paying attention to my body, learning about what it is that my body needs and how I can fulfil my needs positively.  I am learning to give myself the time and the space to meet my needs when I need to and realising that it is okay and that it isn’t selfish.  I’m discovering the things that I want more of in my life and the things that I can do to make that happen.

Living your life with intention is about living with less so you gain more.  Living with less things so the things that you do have, have meaning and value and having less in your schedule so you have time to do the things that you want to do, that are important.

What things can you do to live your life with more intention and meaning?

Melissa from Simple Lionheart Life, shared a guest post by Mia from Mia Danielle, who talks about how you can live intentionally when you feel drained.

<< Read the full post here >> 

20 Self Care Ideas

4. Visualising the life you want to have

I am a big believer in visualisation, the ‘Law of Attraction’ and the power of your mindset.  The ‘Law of Attraction’ is about visualising your life’s experiences through your thoughts, and when you do, you emit a powerful frequency into the Universe.  In other words ,the ‘Law of Attraction’ is the ability to attract events through our thoughts, positive or negative, into the world and bring them to reality.

When you visualise the things that you want in your life, you listen to what it is that your heart and soul desire.  I have been busy visualising and manifesting what it will be like once I leave my 8-5 job and do what it is that I know my heart and soul are crying for.  I can feel how happy I am going to be and I can feel how purposeful the next chapter of my life is going to become.

What do you want in your life?

<< Learn more about visualisation and creating your own vision board
that will lead you to success >>

5.  Being present

What better way to reconnect with your body, your soul and your spiritual self than sitting still in a quiet space and simply being present.  Sitting still means sitting with yourself, with all of your thoughts and just being.  This practice is more powerful as you become disciplined and become more aware of the sensations that happen in your body.  It is a useful technique to include in your mental health recovery.

I’ve started to do this when I drink my coffee every morning.  Its becoming a morning ritual.  I sit still and notice the warm mug in my hands.  I take deep breaths through my nose and notice the smells and aromas.  I notice the changes that happen in my mouth and when I take my first sip, I take the time to notice the warm sensations as I swallow and the tastes on my taste buds.

Sitting quietly and being present doesn’t have to take a long time or be ultra complicated.

<< Learn about simple things you can do to bring meditation and mindfulness
into your daily routine >> 

20 self care ideas for mental health recovery

6. Spending quality time with people that you love

When you spend time with people that you love, whose company that you enjoy, you nourish your soul, your spiritual self and it makes you feel rejuvenated.  There is a reason why you want the people that you love in your life so why not spend time with them.

Have you ever thought about what it is that you like about these people?

Spending quality time with people that you love is about putting technology away and connecting with people in the way that people have always connected with others before technology.  Connect with others through your face to face conversations and relationships.  It’s through the relationships that we have with the people and world around us that develop and strengthen the pathways in our brain.

7. Spend time in nature or bring nature to you

Melanie from ‘Ask-Angels’, talks about how spending time being close to nature can be healing, grounding, heart opening and nourishing for your soul in her blog post.  Every time I purposefully get out the house and step into nature I instantly feel grounded.  The most healing and beneficial place for me is in the forest or in the country and that is why I’m visualising living there right now.

You do not even have to be in the natural environment to experience all of its benefits.  Bringing nature into your environment, such as having flowers or plants on display or using crystals or essential oils can be incredibly powerful in keeping you feel grounded and aligned.  I knew there was a reason why I instantly felt grounded and at peace when I bought my first succulent plant and displayed it in my living room.  Be careful though, its easy to become addicted and the next thing you know they’re everywhere!

Share how you nourish your soul and spiritual self in the comments below.

Here’s to finding your best you, 



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Stop Feeling Unhappy, Depressed and Burnt Out. Give Yourself the Care you Need with the Ultimate Self-Care Kit

I have a product that I know that you’re going to love.  It’s the exact thing that you know you want to help you keep organised and to stay on top of things.  I’ve created the Ultimate Self-Care Kit workbook, which is now available in store.  It has been a godsend to me and the women that I work with in helping them to keep on track with their self-care and mental health.

<< Check out the Ultimate Self-Care Kit workbook here >>

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What is the Ultimate Self-Care Kit?

The Ultimate Self-Care Kit is a workbook full of clean and simple layouts that are helpful and practical.  The workbook is ideal for those who can sometimes forget to make their self-care a priority or for people who struggle with loving themselves,  struggle with giving themselves the care that they need to feel good and refreshed or struggle with their mental health.  The best thing about the Ultimate Self-Care Kit is that it gives you space to learn about yourself, how you can grow as a person and how you can be your best you.

<< Are you ready to make your self-care a priority?
Grab your copy of the workbook now >>

Create New Habits

The human brain is a creature of habit.  Even though it is the most complex organ in the human body, the brain loves it when things can become so automatic that it doesn’t have to do too much thinking.  The workbook is helpful in the way that it can help you to create new, healthy and positive habits by setting up a routine, keeping you organised and accountable when you need it and helpful in keeping you to stay motivated to keep on top of things.

<< I am ready to create new, healthy habits and stay on top of things >>

What’s in the Workbook?

The Ultimate Self-Care Kit has:

  • Journal prompts that encourage personal reflection and learning so that you can learn about yourself, what things you need and how you can continue to grow as a person.
  • Simple monthly layouts to write your self-care goals, any important notes and space for you to rate your self-care progress out of 10.
  • Space for you to reflect on the good things that have happened during each week and the things that you think have been challenging.
  • Worksheets where you can list one thing that you’re grateful for each day so you can get the full benefits of practicing regular gratitude.
  • Space for you to list the things that make you feel good when you’re feeling down or struggling to love and take care of yourself.
  • Colouring in pages so you can tap into your creative side and encourage your creativity.

There’s no need to continue feeling unhappy, having low self-esteem or continue making your mental health become worse and becoming anxious and depressed when it doesn’t have to be that way.  Don’t make it more difficult then it needs to be to come back and heal from burn out.  Make your self-care as basic of a necessity as showering regularly and brushing your teeth.

<< Stop feeling unhappy.  Grab your copy of the Ultimate Self-Care Workbook >>

How will it be delivered?

When you purchase your workbook an instant downloadable PDF file will be sent to your email address immediately after you purchase.  The file can be saved to any electronic device compatible with opening PDF documents and print on A4 paper when needed.  Once printed you can change the order of the months so you can start your workbook at any time of the year.

<< Why wait for a New Years Resolution when you can 
start putting your self-care first RIGHT NOW. >>

The Benefits of Self-Care

You know about the benefits of self-care right?  When you practice regular self-care you’re more motivated and productive, you’re resistance to illness and disease is improved and you’re not getting sick all of the time.  You feel good about yourself, you have enhanced self-esteem and you know that you’re a worthwhile person who is valuable, competent and deserving.  You become more aware of yourself, what your needs are and how to meet those needs in a positive way.  You also have more empathy and compassion towards other people.

<< Don’t put off your own self-care and mental health any longer.  
The time for you and your well-being is now. >>

Here’s to finding your best you, 


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5 Blog Posts about Self-Care and Positive Mental Health you Won’t Want to Miss

I am incredibly passionate about the concept of self-care and how it sets a solid foundation for having positive mental health and a positive mindset.  I had never understood how important it is to take care of yourself until I experienced what it was to feel tired, burnt out and ready to give up on everything that I had valued and believed in.  I’m not only passionate about these few things.  I am passionate about working with women, hearing their stories of growth and empowerment and sharing their stories about what self-care and positive mental health mean to them.

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In this blog post I share with you five blog posts about self-care for women and positive mental health written by four amazing and talented women.   In this post I share blog posts written by Alexis, Haley, Heather, Ari and Ann-Marie.  I share with you self-care ideas that you can easily include in your day to day life and a personal journey healing from Anorexia.  I share a post about how regularly saying positive affirmations is not only beneficial for ourselves but those around us and lessons learned from journaling for 100 days straight.  Finally, I share a post that encourages us to give ourselves permission to be that person who we want and are destined to be.


1. Self-Care Ideas to Include in your Day to Day Life 

Alexis from Simply Nichole shares six ways that you can include self-care into your day to day life that are easy and do not take a lot of time nor effort.   She talks about including activities such as reading a book, regular meditation and binge watching your favourite television show on Netflix.  You can read the full post here.

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2. A Personal Story about Healing from Anorexia 

Haley, from Adventures of Southern Motherhood, shares her personal story about living with Anorexia and her journey to recovery.  In her post, Haley shares the importance of recognising that Anorexia is a mental illness based on unhelpful and unrealistic beliefs about ourselves and that recovery is possible.



3. How Positive Affirmations are Beneficial to those Around Us

Heather from Blissed Out Mums, shares the importance of practicing what we preach, especially for those round us, including our children.  Heather talks about encouraging children to recite positive affirmations in order to influence and grow motivation.  However, for this to work for our children, we must practice and recite positive affirmations ourselves.  Remember when I talked about self-doubt in this blog post and I explained how our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us largely come from our care givers?  This is exactly what Heather is getting at.  Our children need to see us believe and feel positive about ourselves in order for them to believe and feel positive about themselves.


4. Lessons Learned from 100 Days of Journaling 

Ari, from Polish Your Sparkle shares us her lessons that she had learned from journaling for 100 days straight.  You hear a lot about journaling and how it is good for mental health, mindfulness, personal reflection and growth and reading the lessons that Ari learned illustrates exactly why.  Click here to read the full blog post!

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5. Give Yourself Permission to Be Who you Want to Be

Finally, in this blog post, Ann-Marie shares some wise words with us and tells us that we need to give ourselves permission to be the person that we want to be.  Once we give ourselves permission we can then use every opportunity that we can to change our thinking, make it automatic and become who we want to be.

Here’s to finding your best you.



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How My Personal Values Influence the Way I Work with Clients

I have been reading and learning a lot about personal values lately.  I have been learning about my own personal values as part of my own journey of self awareness and learning about what makes me the way that I am.  In this post I share with you a story that happened to me while I worked with children in foster care.  It encouraged me to explore my personal values and how these shape the way that I work with you.

NOTE:  This post mentions Child Protection Services and may contain triggering information.

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What are Personal Values

You can read the entire blog post I wrote about what personal values are here, but in short, personal values are the things that matter most to us and what make us unique and individual people.  They highlight what we stand for and what we are willing to fight for.  Our personal values guide us in how we react, respond and behave in situations.

My Discovery of What I Am Willing to Fight For

I would like to tell you a bit about the discovery of  some of my own personal values,  my discovery about what I am willing to fight for and how my personal values  influence the way that I work with you.  This story is from when I worked in Child Protection Services and I found myself challenging the system.

When I worked as a Child Safety officer, I had been working with a young girl, aged 11 years.  I’ll name her Sarah and keep this pretty general so I can maintain her confidentiality.  Sarah had a challenging beginning to her life.  She, along with her step brother and sister were removed from her step-father’s care and lived in foster care.  Her mother had been out of the picture for some time, in and out of prison and often failing to turn up to access visits with Sarah.

So far in Sarah’s life, she has had nine primary care givers.  You can’t even imagine how much damage this does to anybody, let alone this little girl.  Sarah had a pattern of behaviours.  When she started to become close to her care givers, she would do what she could to sabotage and destroy the relationship (‘getting in first’ as I would often try to explain it).  Her care givers did not have the skills to be able to work though this with her and often I would be left with finding another place for her to live.

Sarah’s step-dad worked hard and his biological children were eventually returned to his care.  Sarah didn’t (for what reason, I still have no idea) but I knew Sarah longed to be with her step-family, or at least have some form of contact with them.  I contacted her step-dad and he was angry.  I had never heard a person so angry in my entire life.  I couldn’t comprehend how he was feeling but I understood how it got that way.  The system had failed Sarah and her family and I was determined to do what I could so Sarah could be with her family.  This was Sarah’s last option with her family and ‘it had to work’.

The system wanted to return Sarah to her step-dad’s care immediately.  I’m not sure whether it was considered a ‘quick fix’ or what it was, but I knew that wouldn’t work.  Given Sarah’s trauma, her pattern for breaking down her foster care placements and her step-dad’s attitude regarding Sarah’s behaviour (‘It wont happen when she returns home’) I knew that this was not going to end well.  My management wouldn’t listen, so I knew I had to be planned and strategic with how I was going to go about this.  I was determined to not cause any further harm to Sarah.

I became mentally unwell working with this family and challenging a system that was against everything that I valued and believed in.  I have taken time out and I started doing things for me.  I am also used this as an opportunity to learn about what this says about me, my values and how they impact with the people that I work with.

What I Have Learned about my Values So Far

  • Do no further harm:  I have learned that I am willing to fight to prevent further harm on others.
  • Family and connection:  That family is important, both to me and to others, particularly for children in foster care.
  • Morals and ethics: I have learned that I am willing to fight for what I think is morally right and ethical.

I’m not sure what happened to Sarah, but I know that she is reconnected with her family.  I wouldn’t change thing that I did.  This is something that I am proud of and I will always hold it close.


I’m curious to know what is important to you and what do you value.  Comment below and tell me about one thing that is important to you and that you value.

Here’s to finding your best you.



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