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7 Ways you can Nourish your Soul and Spiritual Self

This year I have been on my own journey of discovering who I am as a person and what things I can do to take better care of myself.  This came about after my episode of burn out earlier this year, when I realised that I had been failing to pay attention to my body’s signals and warning signs, ignoring my own needs and failing to do what I needed to do to take care of myself.  The good thing is, I’ve recovered and lately I’ve been thinking about the things that I do to nourish my soul spiritual self.

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What is soulful and spiritual self-care?

Soulful or spiritual self-care is about living soulfully and nourishing your spiritual self.  It’s not just about believing in another entity and following a religion.  It’s about learning what makes you the human being that you are, discovering the things that are important to you, learning about your personal values and living your life in line with them.  Soulful and spiritual self-care is doing things that make your soul feel warm and fuzzy, that makes you feel like you’re living a soulful life filled with goodness, happiness and purpose.  These things are vital for your mental health and recovery from mental illnesses such as anxiety or depression.

So, what things do you do to make your soul feel warm and fuzzy?

Below I list 7 things that I do to nurture my soul and spiritual self, that you can do too.

  1. Knowing what is important to you and what you value in life
  2. Practising gratitude
  3. Living your life with intention
  4. Visualising the life you want to have
  5. Being present
  6. Spending time with people that you love
  7. Spending time in nature

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1. Knowing what is important to you and what you value in life

Earlier this year I read the book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k’ by Mark Manson and what an absolute life changer it was for me.  If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend you grab a copy and read it.  I appreciated his ‘no fluff’, ‘tell it how it is’ attitude and style of writing.  The book encouraged me to delve into my own discovery of what makes me the person that I am, what I consider to be important and the things that I value in my life right now.  I learned about the things that I am willing to fight for and the things that I waste far too much time and energy on (such as caring too much about what other people think of me).  These things guide the decisions that I make and influence the direction that I want my life to take from this point onwards.  I feel soulful, I feel determined and I feel empowered.

<< Read more about how your personal values influence
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2. Practicing Gratitude

My own psychologist encouraged me practice regular gratitude.  I was hesitant at first as I didn’t believe that such a thing could be helpful.  Wow! Was I wrong!  The first time I sat quietly, closed my eyes and thought of one thing that I was grateful for in that moment, I could literally feel the chemical changes in my body.

Practicing gratitude is one of the simplest and easiest things that you can do to make your soul feel fuzzy, to nourish your spiritual self and promote a happy and fulfilled life.  Thinking of something that you’re grateful for every day helps to shift your mental state, which can help to break down your brain’s habit of focusing on the negative.  Gratitude is a powerful practice.  Do not under estimate it.

Since that appointment I list one thing that I am grateful for everyday in my self care planner, which you can find available in my store.

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Also, you can read more about gratitude and six other powerful happiness exercises you can do for a better life here.

3. Living your life with intention

Now, more than ever, I have been determined to live my life with intention and I can feel how nourishing it is for me already.  So far, I am learning who I am as a person, I’m paying attention to my body, learning about what it is that my body needs and how I can fulfil my needs positively.  I am learning to give myself the time and the space to meet my needs when I need to and realising that it is okay and that it isn’t selfish.  I’m discovering the things that I want more of in my life and the things that I can do to make that happen.

Living your life with intention is about living with less so you gain more.  Living with less things so the things that you do have, have meaning and value and having less in your schedule so you have time to do the things that you want to do, that are important.

What things can you do to live your life with more intention and meaning?

Melissa from Simple Lionheart Life, shared a guest post by Mia from Mia Danielle, who talks about how you can live intentionally when you feel drained.

<< Read the full post here >> 

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4. Visualising the life you want to have

I am a big believer in visualisation, the ‘Law of Attraction’ and the power of your mindset.  The ‘Law of Attraction’ is about visualising your life’s experiences through your thoughts, and when you do, you emit a powerful frequency into the Universe.  In other words ,the ‘Law of Attraction’ is the ability to attract events through our thoughts, positive or negative, into the world and bring them to reality.

When you visualise the things that you want in your life, you listen to what it is that your heart and soul desire.  I have been busy visualising and manifesting what it will be like once I leave my 8-5 job and do what it is that I know my heart and soul are crying for.  I can feel how happy I am going to be and I can feel how purposeful the next chapter of my life is going to become.

What do you want in your life?

<< Learn more about visualisation and creating your own vision board
that will lead you to success >>

5.  Being present

What better way to reconnect with your body, your soul and your spiritual self than sitting still in a quiet space and simply being present.  Sitting still means sitting with yourself, with all of your thoughts and just being.  This practice is more powerful as you become disciplined and become more aware of the sensations that happen in your body.  It is a useful technique to include in your mental health recovery.

I’ve started to do this when I drink my coffee every morning.  Its becoming a morning ritual.  I sit still and notice the warm mug in my hands.  I take deep breaths through my nose and notice the smells and aromas.  I notice the changes that happen in my mouth and when I take my first sip, I take the time to notice the warm sensations as I swallow and the tastes on my taste buds.

Sitting quietly and being present doesn’t have to take a long time or be ultra complicated.

<< Learn about simple things you can do to bring meditation and mindfulness
into your daily routine >> 

20 self care ideas for mental health recovery

6. Spending quality time with people that you love

When you spend time with people that you love, whose company that you enjoy, you nourish your soul, your spiritual self and it makes you feel rejuvenated.  There is a reason why you want the people that you love in your life so why not spend time with them.

Have you ever thought about what it is that you like about these people?

Spending quality time with people that you love is about putting technology away and connecting with people in the way that people have always connected with others before technology.  Connect with others through your face to face conversations and relationships.  It’s through the relationships that we have with the people and world around us that develop and strengthen the pathways in our brain.

7. Spend time in nature or bring nature to you

Melanie from ‘Ask-Angels’, talks about how spending time being close to nature can be healing, grounding, heart opening and nourishing for your soul in her blog post.  Every time I purposefully get out the house and step into nature I instantly feel grounded.  The most healing and beneficial place for me is in the forest or in the country and that is why I’m visualising living there right now.

You do not even have to be in the natural environment to experience all of its benefits.  Bringing nature into your environment, such as having flowers or plants on display or using crystals or essential oils can be incredibly powerful in keeping you feel grounded and aligned.  I knew there was a reason why I instantly felt grounded and at peace when I bought my first succulent plant and displayed it in my living room.  Be careful though, its easy to become addicted and the next thing you know they’re everywhere!

Share how you nourish your soul and spiritual self in the comments below.

Here’s to finding your best you, 

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How My Personal Values Influence the Way I Work with Clients

I have been reading and learning a lot about personal values lately.  I have been learning about my own personal values as part of my own journey of self awareness and learning about what makes me the way that I am.  In this post I share with you a story that happened to me while I worked with children in foster care.  It encouraged me to explore my personal values and how these shape the way that I work with you.

NOTE:  This post mentions Child Protection Services and may contain triggering information.

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What are Personal Values

You can read the entire blog post I wrote about what personal values are here, but in short, personal values are the things that matter most to us and what make us unique and individual people.  They highlight what we stand for and what we are willing to fight for.  Our personal values guide us in how we react, respond and behave in situations.

My Discovery of What I Am Willing to Fight For

I would like to tell you a bit about the discovery of  some of my own personal values,  my discovery about what I am willing to fight for and how my personal values  influence the way that I work with you.  This story is from when I worked in Child Protection Services and I found myself challenging the system.

When I worked as a Child Safety officer, I had been working with a young girl, aged 11 years.  I’ll name her Sarah and keep this pretty general so I can maintain her confidentiality.  Sarah had a challenging beginning to her life.  She, along with her step brother and sister were removed from her step-father’s care and lived in foster care.  Her mother had been out of the picture for some time, in and out of prison and often failing to turn up to access visits with Sarah.

So far in Sarah’s life, she has had nine primary care givers.  You can’t even imagine how much damage this does to anybody, let alone this little girl.  Sarah had a pattern of behaviours.  When she started to become close to her care givers, she would do what she could to sabotage and destroy the relationship (‘getting in first’ as I would often try to explain it).  Her care givers did not have the skills to be able to work though this with her and often I would be left with finding another place for her to live.

Sarah’s step-dad worked hard and his biological children were eventually returned to his care.  Sarah didn’t (for what reason, I still have no idea) but I knew Sarah longed to be with her step-family, or at least have some form of contact with them.  I contacted her step-dad and he was angry.  I had never heard a person so angry in my entire life.  I couldn’t comprehend how he was feeling but I understood how it got that way.  The system had failed Sarah and her family and I was determined to do what I could so Sarah could be with her family.  This was Sarah’s last option with her family and ‘it had to work’.

The system wanted to return Sarah to her step-dad’s care immediately.  I’m not sure whether it was considered a ‘quick fix’ or what it was, but I knew that wouldn’t work.  Given Sarah’s trauma, her pattern for breaking down her foster care placements and her step-dad’s attitude regarding Sarah’s behaviour (‘It wont happen when she returns home’) I knew that this was not going to end well.  My management wouldn’t listen, so I knew I had to be planned and strategic with how I was going to go about this.  I was determined to not cause any further harm to Sarah.

I became mentally unwell working with this family and challenging a system that was against everything that I valued and believed in.  I have taken time out and I started doing things for me.  I am also used this as an opportunity to learn about what this says about me, my values and how they impact with the people that I work with.

What I Have Learned about my Values So Far

  • Do no further harm:  I have learned that I am willing to fight to prevent further harm on others.
  • Family and connection:  That family is important, both to me and to others, particularly for children in foster care.
  • Morals and ethics: I have learned that I am willing to fight for what I think is morally right and ethical.

I’m not sure what happened to Sarah, but I know that she is reconnected with her family.  I wouldn’t change thing that I did.  This is something that I am proud of and I will always hold it close.

SO, WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU AND WHAT DO YOU VALUE?

I’m curious to know what is important to you and what do you value.  Comment below and tell me about one thing that is important to you and that you value.

Here’s to finding your best you.

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